This is not about only mother.................

Situ-“No...No!!!she \he will  be mama`s kid”

Gituli-“Daydreamer !!! that will be papa`s kid”

Situ- “we will see.”

Gituli-“Sure, there will be no other option for you apart from seeing."

         Do you know who is this couple fighting over this stupid thing ???? yes!! its us, me and my husband .Exactly after  30 days i gave birth to a cute little Angel. She was so tiny that when the nurse brought her to us, wrapped with a saree it looked like a small bundle of clothes. She handed over first to my husband. When  he was about to hold, a cute little leg with so tiny fingers  popped out  and touched his hand. He held her near to his chest now. And guess what !!!she just adjusted her tiny head (with countable hairs) closer to his chest as if she wanted to get all the warmth/ of his body. I was simply immobile ,resting straight on my bed with one bottle of saline and one bottle of blood connected to my veins. He brought her near to me .I was just started comparing her cute little face with mine. I felt few drops of water. “Ohh,no!!!!has she done susu(pee)??”.....When i looked up. I saw my husband’s(Gituli) eye filled with tears. Few drops of tears were rolling down to his trembling lips. His face and eyes were reflecting his unconditional love ,care and affection for our baby. I just hold his hand. He kept our little angel in the cot near to my bed. Then he turned towards me , Kissed on my head and said, ”Thank You”. His kiss explained how much content and overwhelmed he was. At that time i was able to understand its not only me (Mother) who carried the baby for 9^th months within myself  wanted the baby to out, There somebody else was also there who was restless to hold his baby ,Its  none other than a my husband(a father)....                   

                                                                             

        I was completely on bed rest for last 2 days not able to do anything for the baby. Gituli(my husband) stayed awake for the whole day and night and took good care of  all our very needs. I was not able to sit . So i was not able to feed my baby as well. My baby was on infant powder milk. Gituli fed the baby on every two hours as per doctor`s instruction. On the second day, at 1 a.m., baby suddenly started crying. He tried so much to make her calm. He could not even wake me up. He was just clueless why she was crying. She called up home and asked for advice from the experienced persons (papa,mama,Grandma). Then he rushed near to baby and checked her diaper.”OMG!!Shit”  he told with closed eyes and raised nose. And it was actually our daughter’s shit. He was not left with any other options so he cleaned her cute little bumps with wet wipes , applied some powder and wore her diapers. Now whenever i am telling him to clean baby`s potty, he is giving me  excuse as if he had won any gold medal by cleaning his baby`s first potty after birth. But every time in the night he is  singing lullabies to make her sleep. How much hectic schedule he has, he does not get irritated with the baby`s cry rather than try to make her quite. Now our baby is 6 months old instead of calling “Maa-Mama” she  is calling “Papa”. From this you can imagine how well my husband is connected with the baby. Even while taking her to hospital for vaccination or going out for some function , he never mind to hold her instead he forced me to give her to him.                                 

                                         

              That's  true for 9 months i carried the baby inside, with lot of pain i gave birth to her. But i know how much eager, restless her father was to hold her in his hands. How many plannings  he has made to make her baby love him more than me. So in this male dominated society those who tell for a new born baby a mother  is completely responsible for its growth ,as she is feeding her. Wake up!!!!!Wake up!!!! its time for a change. Though a father cannot feed his child but at least by trying out this small things like my husband, he can also be connected more to his kid.As i said in my heading.

         “This is not about only a mother.........its about father too!!!!!!!!”

                                       

           

The Day after Independence …..16th August 2013

            

           

            After celebrating 57th independence day,the very next day i.e. 16th of august 2013, we (myself,My husband, My two brother-in-laws Roshan and Lucky) really got a chance to have a trip from Bhubaneswar to near by places like Konark, Satpada and Puri independently without any elders (i.e. of age more than 30 ).i know !! I know, when i turn 30 guys younger will feel like i am old..So its expected .It is called generation Gap.Though in the night we have a fear of getting up late in the next day morning but this feeling is suppressed by the excitement of trip planning,and packing of selected dresses (very important point with these clothes we must have not taken photos and uploaded in facebook before) .We had our sleep very late that is around 2 or 3 o'clock in the night."Hey !! we reached Konark..see!! " i was just showing my hand towards Konark Temple from the car .But suddenly my alarm woke me up and my husband’s phone rang. I woke up from my dream .Oh!! my God it is 6.15 a.m.The first thought came to my mind was like "we will be surely late. we have planned to start our trip around 6 o clock. we have till now not brushed our teeth".

            I rushed to the bathroom without seeing anything around me. withing 15 minutes i finished everything even my hair wash(you know right !!!.for a girl how long it will take to wash her hair even though she has a boy cut hair.:D) .when i came out from bathroom i saw Roshan (my brother in law of age 10 yrs) has already reached and all set to go for a trip with his mother. I feel really shame .This shamefulness doubles when outside of our gate i heard the horn sound  of a Indigo car ,the travel agency car we hired. It was a kind of warning that "you have more or less half an hour to get ready".I was planning to wear a saree to give me a sexy look as i am going with my husband u know!!!.But with this my plan got failed and i wear kurti and jeans. Mommy packed Roti,Puri ,bhaja and curd for us. We drank horlicks and we all together put all our packed luggage in the car .Took the blessings of papa and mommy .Got into the car. When our car started Mommy prayed "Sarba mangala Jagannatha!".The meaning of this for me is "God and Goddess will also come with us for trip ;) and protect us from any miss-happenings :).After crossing all the narrow street roads when our car touched the main high way that connecting Bhubaneswar and Puri.Our photo session starter .We took photos with all possible poses in the car.

            After 2 hours we reached at Konark. When we got out from the AC car ,we felt like fire rain outside. It was too hot outside. We managed to cover all portions of Konark ,The sun temple and got to know many facts about it.I have never seen so closely the stone art on the temple wall before .Many arts describe the pure relation which brings life on this earth. As if the those crafts are saying to each individual like during the intercourse of a male and female for bringing a new life on this earth ,all the Devatas flow their blessings from heaven. I think that is why "a newly born baby has a  glazing face and purest smile".Then we saw Natyamandap,where every year Konark mahoschhva being celebrated. But the head of the temple , Dharmapada succeed to put on the top of the temple was still missing .So the did  of Dharmapada remains as a story only.If it would have been there,Then every people in the world would got to know "how brave and intelligent  utkal's kids are!!!!".While leaving from Konark we drank Cococnut water and ate Dahi vada ,aludum this was like nectar  for a thirsty in a desert. I  went to ladies toilet constructed there for tourists and i felt ashamed of our state people and Government. In the premises of world's beautiful creation ,pride of odisha we have a such a dirty place. That looked like no body not the house keeping persons nor the tourists were taking responsibility to keep this clean. Without the help of any modern technology our ancestors have made such a beautiful creations,Konark but for us so many modern equipments and technologies are available for us still we hesitate to use those and forget to keep our state's pride high. Atleast we should learn something from a 12 years old Dharmapada who gave his life for our state pride .No body is saying to give life but at least some time to keep our state green and clean.

            After Konark we started our long journey to Satapada. Satapada is around 83kms from Konark. We went via marine drive .While going in the marine drive way, we saw the calm and blue sea view on one side and other side is green and dancing leaves of trees with air.On the way we stayed for 5 to 10 minutes at Chandrabhaga but unfortunately we forgot to took pictures :(.It was noon the sun was just right over of our Car's head :D. When we all felt so hungry ,without any plate and spoon we finished the whole tiffin mommy packed for us. Seriously at that time i felt like " how a mother  know her kid's tummy condition,like when it will cry in hunger!!!".After that our tummy smiled and our mind also started to work and before finishing end point of the marine drive we took photos on a bridge came on our way. See "Food is really needed for mind to work "…:D.

            Around 1 or 2 o clock we reached at satapada .It was raining but like God wanted us to visit that place and say hi to the dolphins there ,rain stopped at once we reached there. We all went to the top of the watch tower to view the scenes of Chilika more clearly ...oops!! this is a lie actually we all were  thinking of Dolphins .We could see the dolphins from the top.My two brother in laws were bluffing  me  like " Hey bhauja ,I saw the tail of dolphin ,I saw the eye of the dolphin blah blah."But nothing was seen from there except the huge lake Chilika with brackish water. The sun was glazing in the sky and spreading its rays on the lake water .When you looked at the shining water of lake you felt like  some precious metals like golds,silvers,diamonds were floating on the water. And i was not sure how far the lake has spread but as far as my eye can reach i saw lake is bounded with many green trees and small houses of fishermen supported on the pillar of wood that might be Bamboo .Many fish nets are there on the lake water which were being used to catch the fish and the Prawns .on our way to the watch tower o we found a small prawn lying dead. We threw it back to the lake so that any crab or any fish could eat it. On the watch tower top the air will play with hairs for sure so please never go to that place with open hair.:D This blowing air will tell you "welcome welcome To satapada".And you will not be interested to come down. After one hour we came down and went to the park  near by. While entering into the park we saw a big bone structure .From a far distance we felt like its a dinosaurs bone setup but the time we reached there and checked what had been written we were socked. It was a Whale bone structure which had been captured from Rushikulya bay.we stayed there for around half an hour .Then without any energy and with dull face as sun was so kind to us that with sweat  all our make up had gone. We hired a motor boat after a long time bargaining .At that time i felt like my husband is not like dumbo  in marketing even he knew how to bargain. I felt happy about it. :).The person driving the boat was very nice and sober. He took us to Rajhams Island as it was very far .After reaching there we saw many red crabs on the sand,sea mouth from the top and also we ate cooked fresh prawn and crab .Lucky- my eldest brother in law had an experience of holding the live crab. My youngest brother in law ,Roshan did not like to eat non-veg .He ate jhal mudhi there. I collected some shell structures which can be kept in aquarium as showpiece. I think i had asked around 5 to 10 times to the person "Bhayina.auu dolphin ketebele dekheyibe!!!".In between i felt like they bluffed us there was no dolphins they just took money like that.Then that person told "we will start now".We all are excited ,sat in the boat and all eyes were on the lake water ,at any time we could see dolphin. But that person took a long root to reach at Irrawaddy dolphin center,Where maximum dolphins we could see. We all were bored and kind of restless. I was laughing at my two brother in laws activity ,they were like half asleep. After two hours i asked to that person again "Bhayina, auu kete bata".Suddenly he shouted "Hey ,people look there".We all were reacted like we all drank Glucose-D  "Na, ko han karde Pite hi!!".We four were looking at four sides to see a glance of dolphins .Suddenly our boat driver says"look there".I looked and believe me you will feel like blessed if you will watch that. “Two dolphins were just for a sec jumped up and made arch on air with their body and jumped back into the  water” .it was so fast like the blink of our eyes. Then in the front also i saw a dolphin pair doing the same again and again. I saw twice or thrice till that time. But no body else apart from me was able to see. And Lucky was saying to everyone  "ya ya I saw the tail..see there it is!!".But it was not true. Roshan was  dancing on the boat base "where !! where!!" "I am not able to see".He made a round on his knee to see the dolphin .I told him to ," calm down and look at the front ,you will be able to see it" .Then suddenly a dolphin jumped out and went back into water within a fraction. Roshan was delighted by seeing it and shouted like "yeeyy!!!!! i saw it".Even my husband was also searching for a dolphin ,his face looked more childish than Roshan. He was also delighted by seeing this. We were not able to click any photos of dolphin they are so fast in coming out and getting into the water as if they are saying "Without our permission no photo :P "After spending around 1 hour there we came back and we gave 50 bucks to the boat driver.

            We went to OTDC for lunch. At that time we were so hungry that we forgot that we have ordered some curry with rice and dal. We finished our rice and dal before the curry was served ;).Anyways after a happy lunch we started our trip to puri. Since all had our tummy full and we were tired ,we  had a sleep in the car .I hold my husbands hand in my hand and put my head on his shoulder and closed my eyes to have a fearless sleep as he was around us. What about my two brother in laws,where they went!!! nothing to worry we have not left them anywhere. They slept so deep as if they were not present in the car ;).after around 40 to 50 minutes we reached at Puri beach. Our planning was to see sunset at puri beach. But it was a little late. When we reached near the puri sea beach, we heard the same loud  sound of sea tides ,about which Lord jaganatha tease her wife Laxmi .In the dark the sea was like a big dark giant face which was opening its mouth and moved its tongue in and out (I refer to the sea tides).We did not went more deep ,just touched our feet with sea water ,took photos and started for puri temple. Hey i forgot to mention the most important thing. I went to the public toilet constructed newly near the sea beach,i was quite happy by seeing that as it was new and clean. Moreover  it has been created. Because before most of the people are using sea beach or inside the sea as their toilet.Thanks to Naveen pattanaik for it. We reached at Jaganath temple. The temple was not so crowded and we were able to have a very clear glance of Kalia .At that time i told to my husband "Look,is not the smile of Jaganatha hidden with his Angabastra(Cloths)??".He smiled and told me, "No,Actually he is surprised to see us. How suddenly we came to see him!!!."After visiting other god and goddess in the temple, we reached at Muktimandapa. It was decorated with all silver crafts,in the middle  “Madan Mohan” was on swing and everybody was saying "Hari bola!!!".My husband asked to one priest there what was that for. He told on that day Jhulana jatra started. So it was a coincidence or something ,i don’t know but i felt fortunate to see all things together. We bought some Prasada and finally started our journey back to Bhubaneswar. In the way to keep our driver awake my husband started "Antakshari".But people take my advice never ever do antakshari in a group where Roshan and Lucky kind of guys will be present. They will make their own songs and will sing in such a way that you will be confused whether seriously any kind of song is present or not.But because of this i got to know about the talent of Lucky.

            And.....this way the day after independence come to an end with all smiles ,fun and masti around. Thanks to my husband who planned this and fought for this.We will definitely plan for this kind of journey more often.

Childhood Grooming....

Few days back i went to a function. As we all know when "Function" word is being raised,
there comes the word "Delicious food".So respecting this thought,I entered into the dinning for food .But when i entered into the dinning hall what  i saw was really unbelievable specially in Odisha.Without eating any food ,My stomach is full kind of feeling i experienced.

So what the thing i saw??????..

"At the dinning hall,the persons who were serving the food were not the young,charming,handsome guys dressed with some white shirt and black pant with a black neck tie.

Rather there were very cute,smart,finely dressed teen boys and girls(below 15yrs),serving the food by asking every person "Do you want some more sir/madam??".This is really a superb thought i feel. This idea is really really appreciable as it is opening doors of solution to many of our day to day problems. Though these problems are very small and can be ignored. But a problem is a problem if we will not follow the proper solution then it can be worst.

So now everybody might be thinking how the kids below 15 yrs who are ignorant about the criticality of the society can create problems???.Surely this girl(Me) has gone mad or just she wants to write something so she is writing just bullshit.

But no this is a fact. I will explain............

Imagine a family ( with two three members below 15yrs) went to a function. How those little members will react when they will reach the place!!!.They will just roam here and there,break something,and some times they will get hurt. So complete waste of energy !!!!!.Even this is a botheration for other members .They cannot just sit with their near and dear ones for chit chat. They need to run behind these little ones to make sure these will not get hurt. No one can kidnap them.

Like a block to water flow of a high speed river creates a high pressure and break the block. Same way kids has high energy , enthusiasm and curiosity. our over protectiveness,searching for them every now and then,Making them violent. And create a negative attitude towards their family members.

Then how the idea i appreciated above will help;

1. As its a new thing for them they will be interested to do.

2. They will learn responsibility.

3. They will learn  how to serve people.

4. They will learn to respect food.

5. They will be involved in family function.

6. In any family function ,the first question will come  about our health and the very next question will be hows ur son or daughter??.At that time only our son or daughter will not be with us. He/she will be doing masti with others. And we will not be aware of the place where he/she is. But because of the above idea the question will be changed like "whose daughter/son  he/she is??".

7. They will be more mannered.

As i am explaining so much about this idea does not mean,This is the only idea by which we can groom the childhood. There are many ways. We just need to open our eyes. That's it!!!

Instead of making our children dependent why not make them self confident,independent and last but not the least a real fighter.

 

Attachment.....

 

Huhh...!!!!! So much office work,meetings,conference call blah blah blah.In the mean time i forgot to look at the clock."oh! My God "!!!!!its 7 p.m.,I had to leave office now.Then i rushed to my scooty(oops sorry not scooty Its Activaaa!!!.Seriously Bunu Mamu your explanation about the difference between scooty and activa (cost wise) made me give high respect or importance to Activa.

Now a days policy is like if you give some one high importance,then he/she will show you more attitude. Though science says activa is lifeless,but in my thinking activa has  engine as its heart. petrol/diesel is the blood circulating and giving energy. Two mirrors in front are like two big eyes without eyelashes. The head light in front seems like it is  smiling by showing its all shining teeth .How it could forget to show attitude to me. It does not start (neither with electrostat nor with kick start).I quickly caught a person passing near by and told him to start it. Then I thanked him and drove with a speed of around 50 or 60 .I did not get the reason of my hurry.

After around 45 minutes i reached at my home where my papa was waiting near the gate with holding mobile in his left hand and right hand taking the support of our main gate. His forehead muscles were compressed making line on it. Eyes were like a person waiting for some missing thing and has faith that it will come back Soon. when he saw me his eyes ,forehead all got their natural structure. He opened the complete gate and asked "Why today late????".Even though he questioned like an IT manager but the care and the concern in his voice turned an IT manager to a caring father. After answering that i went straight to my bedroom where mama was watching her favourite TV serial holding mobile in one hand. Though she was looking at TV but her eyes and mind thinking and worrying about my safe return. Even before i sat on the couch she listed out all stuffs which could be eaten in the evening snacks. As i was on diet so ate some cucumber and discussed about my office and college stuffs. I ran straight to grand Ayee's place near by. Even there also i was seeing every one of different age starting from 10yr old sibu to 60 yr old grand Ma was waiting for me .All were like saved thier energy of the whole day for telling all the things happened in the whole day in 30 minutes to me. All the complaints about sibu's and babu's study,About the stuffs Meena mayin cooked,About Tuni mayin how she is often going to her paternal house etc and etc.

These all things happening again and again ,on everyday...but still no body is getting bored of it. Everyday these people(including me) play the same role ,same action but still we feel as it has not happened before. If any deviation happens to this then we feel like we are missing something .

I tried to find out the hidden thing between me and office!!,Me and Activa!!,Me and Papa!!,Me and MAMA!!!,Me and Ayee!!,Me and  every individual of our family!!..what is this ??? what is this>???????

  I got an answer for it today............

                                       That is called...

   

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